Ezer Knegdo

My husband and I are currently reading through Love & War by John and Stasi Eldredge. In the book they say this, "God calls her (Eve) Adam's ezer knegdo, a very powerful name indeed, only used of God in Scripture when his help is desperately needed. The woman is man's essential comrade, his lifesaver..."

That passage has made me think about our marriage. Am I doing a good job at being a ezer knegdo for Jason? Do my choices, my actions, and my words make his life easier? Do I lift him up? Do I encourage him? Am I his essential comrade? Is my help desperately needed in his life?

Sadly, I can't always say that I am the ezer knegdo that God has called me to be. I often put my needs and wants ahead of my husband's. I am the one asking for help rather than offering it. That needs  to change... starting today. Each day I need to ask my husbands questions like,

What can I do for you today?

How can I help you out? 

How can I come along side you and support you? 

What can I do for you today while you are at work?

How can I help you reach that goal?

What do you need from me?

As I ask him these questions, I must be prepared to follow through with his answers. Some days he might not "need" me to do much for him, but other days he might ask me to spend less at the grocery in order to meet our financial goals or he might ask me to spend the children's nap time sending some e-mails for him. His answers will change each day, but I want to choose to make his to-do list first on my to-do list. I want to choose to be the best ezer knegdo I can be! I'm excited to see what the Lord wants to teach me and how He will use me in the life of my husband!