Wife Lesson: Master Bedroom Sanctuary

In one of the last devotions in my book, I talk about the importance of making the master bedroom a sanctuary. This is a principle, mentioned in several marriage books, where you make a priority of not only keeping the master bedroom clean, but also free from technology and paperwork (such as bills) so as not to bring stress into the bedroom. Setting the master bedroom apart to be a stress free zone in the house is important for the marriage. 


At the time of writing the devotion for my book (December 2009), I was challenging myself to make our master bedroom a sanctuary. I did part of that challenge, but am only now completing that challenge. When I first penned it, we were living in a rental house and so while I moved my lap top out of our bedroom and tried my best to keep it clean - I was not able to make it into the oasis that I had envisioned. 


We recently bought and moved into a new home and for the first time in our married life, I have put forth a tremendous effort to make our bedroom a sanctuary. We took our time picking out a nice comforter set with matching curtain, valances, and decorative pillows. We chose for soft colors that would be relaxing for us. I bought scented candles and have them burning throughout the day in order to fill our room with a fresh smell. I dust and run the vacuum regularly as well as make the bed each morning. Little things that truly go a long way in making our room a sanctuary.


We are not finished yet as we will paint our room before the end of the year, but like many families, our home improvements are completed in small steps. Yet, with the few steps we've taken, I have been amazed - truly amazed - with how relaxing and inviting our bedroom has become. It is a place where we are rejuvenated as a couple and it has an atmosphere that is inviting and satisfying for both of us.


I am challenging myself to stay on top of the chores in our room so that it will always remain a sanctuary. Making the bed each morning, putting laundry away immediately, pushing draws closed all the way after each use, and burning the scented candles. Showing love to my husband by creating a private oasis in our bedroom. Not only for physical martial intimacy, but for quality time intimacy.


How is your bedroom? If you have not yet created your own sanctuary; I encourage you to do so. As someone who has lived in rental property and who lives on a budget... I know that sometimes we can't paint or decorate the way we would truly like, but what small things are there to be done? Take time with the big items so that you and your husband can agree with colors and themes.  If you have already made your master bedroom into your private oasis; please tell us about it! Let us truly become a community of women united in our desire to become better wives!