16 "Nevers" of Communication With Your Spouse!

In the process of cleaning out my desk, I came across a handwritten list that was titled 16 "Nevers" of Communication with your Spouse. Jason and I had only been married for one month when we were able to attend a Song of Solomon conference and that is where this list was taken from:

 

1. Never speak rashly.
2. Never confront your spouse publicly.
3. Never confront your spouse in your children's presence.
4. Never use your children in the conflict.
5. Never say "never" and "always."
6. Never resort to name calling.
7. Never get historical.
8. Never stomp out of the room or leave.
9. Never raise your voice in anger.
10. Never bring a family member into the discussion unless they are a direct part of the problem being addressed.
11. Never win through reasoning or logic and never out-argue.
12. Never be condescending.
13. Never demean.
14. Never accuse your spouse with "you" statements.
15. Never allow an argument to being if both of you are overly tired, if one of you is under the influence of chemicals, or if one of your is physically ill.
16. Never touch your spouse in a harmful manner.

I don't know about you, but I think this is a great list and serves as a great reminder!!!

Happy Communication! :)